Hey there,
I don’t know what it is but everybody around me suffers from a severe heartbreak. I can’t even spare a minute from the phone in which a friend wants me to tell her the pro and cons of his/her relationship. But in the end the same questions arise: What the heck did I do wrong? Why doesn’t he or she love me anymore?
That’s when we find ourselves in front of a pile of shattered remains of a once blooming relationship. That is the time when friends offer loving advice like: “There are plenty of other fish in the sea.” But those kinds of advices only leave the broken-hearted ones in rage. They don’t want anyone else; they only want him or her back.
I personally can confidently say that it definitely helps healing if you stop idealizing your Ex. If he or she was the perfect partner for you, he or she would still be at your side. It may be harsh but the best way to nurture a healing heart is to move on. I often see that every little hint of affection can cause tremendous outbreaks and speculations of whether he or she wants to get back together, just stop.
Love cannot and will not be forced in any way. And it won’t do you any good to run after him. It will only leave you humiliated and hurt.
I collected some very useful tips for you to nurture your broken heart.
– Make a list of every single thing you disliked about your ex and soon you will realise that he or she wasn’t all that.
– Write a farewell note to him or her; include everything you always wanted him or her to know. Then burn it and never look back.
– Take time to mourn the lost love. Cry, attack your pillows, let it all out. It will get better in time.
– Avoid any kind of contact to your ex. Delete his or her number, any social links and tell your ex to quit contacting you.
– Spend time with your friends and treat yourself. Go shopping, to the hair dresser, a sauna or book a whole weekend full of wellness.
– When you find yourself in a mind-set where you can’t seem to stop thinking about him or her, write it down. After every single thought, tell yourself to stop. It will take time; you’re the only one who can control the thoughts flowing in and out.
I wish all of you the best. You’re not alone in this thing and this might get old but “Time does heal wounds” and you will get over it – I promise.
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